PARSHAT NOACH: HARMONY IN DIVERSITY


By Sherrie B. Miller


Jewish Dating, Harmony, Jewish Singles

“AND THE WHOLE EARTH WAS OF ONE LANGUAGE, AND OF ONE SPEECH.” (Breishit 11:1)

The Rav Yakov Ariel poses the question: if the goal of creation is unity, why the anger on G-d’s part due to the unanimity and harmony amongst the people of that generation? After all, Adam was created in the singular, to avoid rivalry and competition between families. Adam’s creation, clearly demonstrates the Will of Hashem that we be cohesive and joined in the common purpose and mindset of serving Him.

The Rav Ariel explains that we must distinguish between the two terms used in the Torah for “language”: “safah” and “lashon”. “Safa” also means lip, an external physical feature. “Lashon” means tongue, as well. The tongue is an internal characteristic that expresses an inner and much deeper content.

The problem with the singular and unified mindset is that it is superficial and doesn’t allow for stimulation and growth on the part of the individual within his community. This says Rav Dessler is the idea behind the covenant of the Rainbow: as the Rainbow manifests itself through continuous renewal of the rain drops that meet with the sun’s rays, so too we must be renewed through a meeting of minds that possess different ideas and thoughts.

The multicolored Rainbow additionally gives a message of harmony combined with diversity. By opening up to others’ and their differing ideas, we develop and expand ourselves tremendously!

Recently, I suggested a match between two young people. They were from very similar backgrounds, close in age etc. After the date, the young woman phoned to say that she didn’t think it would work. Quite surprised, I enquired as to the reason for her decision. “He is Soloveichik and I’m Rav Kook!” How sad the two luminaries would feel if they were alive.

Being so restrictive and exclusive greatly limits our ability to grow and cultivate ourselves into more spiritual and greater human beings.

Trying to clone ourselves will yield minor gains in the effort to reach our full potential. By discovering the harmony in diversity, we become far more than we ever could have been if we all try to be identical: if two people are identical, then one of them is superfluous!

Biography:
Sherrie B. Miller is a Jewish matchmaker on SawYouAtSinai and a dating coach in Jerusalem. She received her counseling degree from the Michlala in Jerusalem and an M.A. in Jewish Education from Touro College. Sherrie is certified by Midreshet Emunah and is accredited by the Rabbanut of Israel, to be a pre-marital couple’s counselor and Kallah teacher.