By Sherrie B. Miller
“AND YITRO HEARD.”
Why does the Torah name an entire Parsha after a non-Jew and moreover, “The Parsha”, which describes the awesome experience of Matan Torah?
The greatness of Yitro was his ability to listen, which is a prerequisite to receiving the Torah. Unlike the rest of mankind who heard of Hashem’s miracles, Yitro internalized what he heard and was greatly affected by it.
He was open to the impact of what he heard and was open to change!
There are four primary forms of communication: reading, writing, speaking and listening. From our earliest years we are taught to read, write and speak.
How many of us have ever learned to listen?
We seldom listen because we are usually judging, preparing our response, or interpreting what we hear through own frame of reference, our own inner and personal world.
According to Stephen Covey, the highest level of listening is called empathic listening: “to truly listen means to transcend your own autobiography, to get out of your frame of reference, out of your own value system, out of your own history and judging tendencies, and to get deeply into the frame of reference or viewpoint of another person.”
Tips for active listening:
Biography:
Sherrie B. Miller is a Jewish matchmaker on www.sawyouatsinai.com and a dating coach in Jerusalem. She received her counseling degree from the Michlala in Jerusalem and an M.A. in Jewish Education from Touro College. Sherrie is certified by Midreshet Emunah and is accredited by the Rabbanut of Israel, to be a pre-marital couple’s counselor and Kallah teacher.
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